Video instructions and help with filling out and completing Which Form 8815 Exclude

Instructions and Help about Which Form 8815 Exclude

One of the difficult things about dating is that sometimes people put a version of themselves forward it doesn't correspond to who they really are so you can start a relationship think you're dating this wonderful person and find out after several months that that is in fact not the case and that's why in this video I want to give you seven things seven red flags that you absolutely need to be aware of to avoid dating someone that you don't want to be with and this is true of both men and women and I'm gonna focus on things that aren't so obvious not just jealousy or cleanness things that might be happening that you're not noticing that if you did you could save yourself a lot of pain so the first thing is that if the person that you are dating has friends that you don't like chances are the person you're dating is someone you eventually will not like now of course you want to treat them as an individual right you're saying they're not like their friends they don't have these qualities so why should I ascribe to them qualities that I see in these other people and if that's a wonderful feeling but the truth is we are all products of the five people that we hang out with the most we're like our friends especially if we spend a lot of time with them so if you think that the person you're dating doesn't have the qualities that you see in the friend maybe the friends left ambition they're unkind whatever guess what the person that you are seeing is probably putting on a face in reality they're much more like their friends than they want you to believe that they just want to impress you early on it so they don't let you know the second thing is very similar to that and it's if you want to know how somebody's gonna behave when things aren't going so well and they no longer feel the need to impress you look at how they trait waitstaff look at how they treat service people and look at how they treat anyone in the world that seems or they feel has lower status than they do when people go out to a restaurant one of the nice things is that there is a waitstaff that serves you and all the times people feel like they do not need to impress that person because they're already paying them guess what that means that they're going to behave in a way that is constant for anyone that they are not trying to impress and you will eventually become that person for them so while they might be very sweet to you and understanding of your flaws if they are really really rude or unkind or not understanding when the waiter makes a mistake when that's you after several months you will likely receive that same pattern so if you don't like the treat the way that they treat waitstaff you're probably eventually not going to like the way that they treat you the third piece and this one can feel good is be wary when someone breaks confidence in order to tell you a secret especially early on so if someone comes up to you and during the course of your conversation says don't repeat this I was asked not to say this but and then tells you something that's a pretty good indicator that they are breaking the confidence of somebody else who asked them not to say something in fact somebody that they probably have known longer than they've known you and while it might make you feel special to go oh my gosh they trust me so much they're telling me this guess what eventually you'll be the person telling them secrets that they are going and blabbing on about but secrets aren't even the real issue here it's how they treat their word they likely at least implicitly let that person know that they wouldn't say it and then they broke their word they told you that is a horrible horrible trait in someone that you're looking to date as a partner you need someone that really respects their word and if you get indication that they don't you should probably get out the fourth thing is going to be heavily engaging in social media or anything else that is very appearance based now I've made videos on social media it is in my business especially I'm here on YouTube it's it's an odd relationship that I have but one thing that I have noticed in my own life and with other people is that the amount of time that someone spends cultivating an identity and an appearance in their life in whatever form it takes any social meter or even just gossiping or letting people know that they did a certain thing because they're concerned with reputation that tends to correspond to less time spent on their character less time spent on who they are so while they might look like they're making all this wonderful progress in their meeting these amazing people or climbing mountains are meditating if that's all the photos and the imagery and the words that you're seeing on social media it can very very often be the case that behind the scenes that I've heard and seen so many stories that is the complete opposite on the contrary when someone is doing those things you might get a post here and there but it's not going to be the main focus they're actually doing it in their life so if you and the person you're dating have very different social media habits it's likely that you have very different values as well and you are probably not the match sorry to say the fifth thing if someone has a history of not having long lasting relationships